Living with a roommate usually means splitting the rent, utilities, and shared expenses. But what happens when your roommate’s boyfriend starts spending so much time at your apartment that he’s practically living there, too?

That’s the situation one woman recently shared on Reddit after asking her roommate’s boyfriend to contribute $60 toward their monthly utility bills.

Instead of agreeing, he called her stingy and insisted he was only a guest.

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What Started as Weekend Visits Turned Into Six Nights a Week

The woman explained that she shares a two-bedroom apartment with her 25-year-old roommate. They pay $1,900 a month in rent and split utilities equally.

Her roommate’s boyfriend, Marcus, started staying over in March. At first, he visited only on weekends, but those visits gradually became six nights a week.

He now showers there every morning, works from their living room throughout the day, and keeps his protein shakes in the refrigerator. He even has his own bathroom shelf and a key to the apartment.

Meanwhile, their electric bill increased from $95 to $160 in August compared with the same month the previous year.

She Asked Him to Contribute $60, and Things Got Awkward

Rather than confronting Marcus directly, the woman brought up the issue privately with her roommate over coffee. She explained that she liked him and didn’t mind having him around, but thought it was reasonable for him to cover roughly a third of the utilities since he was there almost every day.

Her roommate agreed to ask him.

Two days later, Marcus knocked on her bedroom door and told her he didn’t live there because he still had his own place. He also said it was stingy to expect a guest to pay bills. Her roommate stood behind him without saying anything.

The woman later clarified that Marcus’s other residence was actually his parents’ house.

Since the conversation, both her roommate and Marcus have been distant, often eating dinner behind closed doors.

Reddit Users Think She’s Being More Than Reasonable

The woman turned to Reddit to ask whether requesting $60 a month was unreasonable. Most commenters sided with her, with several pointing out that someone who stays six nights a week, works from the apartment, and has their own key is hardly an occasional guest.

Some argued that Marcus should contribute to rent as well, not just utilities. Others suggested that the woman address the additional expenses directly with her roommate, leaving it up to the couple to decide who pays.

Several commenters also recommended checking the lease for rules about overnight guests, since some rental agreements limit how frequently visitors can stay.

For now, the woman says she wants a fair arrangement that doesn’t make her pay extra for someone else’s frequent visits.